I can’t tell you how often people say to me, “ I don’t know how you do it!” – them referring to having four children (three of which are home with me during the day unless I’m trekking them to school and preschool) and having my home business. Then of course there is just functioning – eating, feeding the kids, cleaning the house, tending to the pets, appointments, groceries, errands of all kinds, and the list goes on and on. Oh, and I am the Chairperson for the Preschool Board. I definitely make the most of those 24 hours each day. But as I am often asked, How do I do it? Here is my secret.
I don’t. I am not supermom. I am not a magical wizard who can complete everything every day. I am just a mom hustling every day. And truthfully, I don’t do it all. There are many days I just don’t get to cooking dinner because I got caught up working or my kids decided to make mommy go crazy ( which is far more often than I wish) and so my husband picks up the slack when he gets home. Laundry? There are SIX of us in this house. S I X! So you can only imagine how much laundry we have – especially when you have a 2 year old who changes her outfit 4 times a day. Does our laundry get put away as we do it? LOL that’s a hard NO. But, I have help. When I am slammed with work, Hubby does the laundry and the kids are getting better at helping put it away once we put the clothes on the hanger. Everything does not get done every day and that is okay. The world will not end if the couch has popcorn crumbs on it (like it does as I type this because they had popcorn for snack today). I function better in a clean space but I don’t let it rule my life. I can survive.
We all have the same 24 hours in a day…. Wrong. Sorry, but I do not agree with this statement. Yes, there are 24 hours in a day but it is not the same for us all. To the parent who works 2 jobs and has to take care of their kids solo – they do not have the same 24 hours as the neighbours who have no kids and a maid. But I do believe we have choices (to a point) in what we do to maximize our 24 hours. What are you willing to sacrifice for something else to happen? Life is choices. I choose to sleep very little and work on growing my business a little more. I choose to not sacrifice as much family time to grow my business and spend a little more time soaking up time with my kids. What I sacrifice is maybe some ‘me’ time but that is a choice I made for my goals. Lately I have felt stretched too thin to do everything I want and sacrifice nothing and that’s just not realistic. I’ve started adding less tasks to my daily to-do-lists ( yes, I make paper lists daily and feel so much joy crossing tasks off once completed) but I’ve made these lists more practical – what NEEDS to be done today and what can wait until tomorrow. Try a list – and if it doesn’t get done because your kids were coo-coo, you weren’t feeling well or you just didn’t want to – life will continue and fit those tasks in where you can.
Then of course, I have a mini army behind me. My husband at home – as much as his slower pace may drive me bonkers, it is his pace and if he cleans up the dishes after dinner so I can do something else, I’ll take it. I have my amazing LLC team who helps with questions from customers and posting – alleviates some work on my plate. And then friends and family I know are there if I ask (I am so not the type to ask for help but I know they are there )
So, how do I raise 4 kids, run a business and do everything else in between? This is my ‘secret’. I work hard, I drink a lot of coffee, I make sacrifices, and I never stop. Send me a message at 2 am – I’ll probably answer ;) If you have a dream I say go for it. Nothing comes easy but you don’t know what will come if you don’t try. And last but not least – Dreams do come true and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Make a list and make it happen <3
- The Bow Lady